080 Healing: The Essential Guide to Helping Others Overcome Grief and Loss by Alicia King

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Welcome to episode 080 of “Connie and Sheila Talk”. Here are today’s show segments:
1) Famous Quotes
2) “Healing: The Essential Guide to Helping Others Overcome Grief & Loss” with author Alicia King
3) Heart Topic: A New Normal

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Segment 1 Famous Quotes

“Sorrow makes us all children again–destroys all differences of intellect. The wisest know nothing.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” Kahlil Gibran

Segment 2 “Healing: The Essential Guide to Helping Others Overcome Grief & Loss”

Today we are happy to have Alicia King, author of “Healing: The Essential Guide to Helping Others Overcome Grief & Loss” as our special guest in THiNKing Rocks Studio. Alicia, unfortunately, wrote this book from experience as her Mother was murdered and within a few years afterwards her Grandmother, Father, Stepmother and Stepfather passed away as well as she suffered a miscarriage. She is an award winning songwriter and writes mostly for film and TV.

Alicia shares how to help someone who has suffered the loss of a loved one in this beautiful, touching and very helpful book of do’s and don’ts.  Click on the book to be redirected to Amazon.com to purchase your copy.

• The best ways to get involved on behalf of the grief-stricken
• 20 ways to pay tribute to the beloved
• How to care for young children in grief
• Interviews and advice from those who have suffered a loss
• 10 things never to say

We encourage each of you to take a coffee break and listen to this very informative show and share it with a friend!

Alicia on FACEBOOK

Alicia is a contributing editor for HEART2SOUL.com

Alicia’s Blog: Do’s and Dont’s of Grief

Alicia’s first book:  ”Sorry For Your Loss:  What People Who Are Grieving Wish You Knew

CLICK HERE to be redirected to A Widow’s Voice blog

CLICK HERE to be redirected to Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation

CLICK HERE to be redirected to CAMP WIDOW

Segment 3 Heart Topic: A New Normal

Death is an inevitable part of life and when it occurs, it can be traumatic for those of us left behind. As Alicia points out in her book, there is no specific timeline of grief. There are components of grief, but they follow no order or length of time.
What does Grief look like?
• Anger
• Sadness
• Depression
• Desire to be left alone
• Denial
• Feeling of Hopelessness
Steps to help with the grieving process:

1) Accept a “New Normal”- this may be the most important concept for someone grieving. A New Normal means, things will never be the same as before, but will continue, in a different way. A new normal gives us permission to move forward.
2) Seek out others who have experienced a loss similar to yours.
3) Physical activity- biking, running, walking, tennis, etc…
4) Acknowledge the grieving process and don’t let anyone “take it” from you.
5) When ready, create positive ways to remember your loved one. EX: on their birthday, release balloons, light a candle for them at the holidays, share their story with others, etc…
6) Allow yourself the same grace and kindness you would extend to someone else.

Our question this week is: Have you ever thought about the words you say to someone who is grieving? The words we say can be helpful or can actually cause more pain. Sometimes a simple: “I love you and I am a good listener if you ever want to talk” may be enough said.
Until next week, Peace!
Connie and Sheila

P.S.  I wish we would have commented when Alicia said something about “DWG”.  Driving While Grieving, was a funny comment, and I didn’t hear it until doing the post-production editing.  Thanks Alicia, we had a great time!