065 SELF PUBLISHING FOR VIRGINS / What’s Holding You Back?


Welcome to episode 065 of “Connie and Sheila Talk”.  Here are today’s show segments:

1. Famous Quotes

2. What’s Holding You Back?  Special guest Peggy DeKay, author of “Self Publishing for Virgins”

3. Heart Topic: THiNK Courage


Segment 1     Famous Quotes

“If we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone.” ~ John Maxwell

“That which we manifest is before us; we are the creators of our own destiny. Be it through intention or ignorance, our successes and our failures have been brought on by none other than ourselves.”  ~ Garth Stein, (author of “The Art of Racing in the Rain”)



Segment 2    What’s Holding You Back?

 It’s reported that 81% of Americans have an interest in writing a book and today we are very fortunate to have Peggy DeKay, author of “Self Publishing for Virgins” on our show!  Peggy is an expert in the field of self publishing and is also a speaker and book coach.  This will be a show you will re-play over and again!

Peggy offers so many wonderful tips throughout the show, here are just a few:

  • Your book is not your baby, it is your business
  • It takes courage to “put yourself out there”
  • The Secret to Writing: BTIC (Butt Time In Chair)
  • There is a publishing revolution going- Peggy reveals what’s going on!


http://www.fandomfest.com  – July 22-24, 2011 FANDOM FEST:  Where Fantasy and Sci-Fi lovers as well as Horror Geeks and Comic Collectors and Film Lovers of all types can just hang out with Gamers, Authors and Artists of all types.

http://www.womenwhowrite.com/  – Women Who Write, a non-profit organization for women writers in the Louisville area. Our mission is to welcome, educate and support all women who aspire to write.

For more information on Peggy DeKay check out her website: www.PeggyDeKay.com




Segment 3    Heart Topic: THiNK Courage

We all have dreams.  Whether it is writing a book, getting into real estate investing, making it in the music business, going to college, etc…

Whatever it is, we must have the courage to take action to move forward and bring our dreams into reality.  If we let our emotions dictate our actions, our awareness level is often times not high enough.  Be proactive versus reactive.  Gain the self-confidence required to do whatever it is you want.  It takes courage to bring your dreams into the present and always remember: You can do it!


BLOG: Move Beyond the Limits That Are Holding You Back:



BLOG: Avoidance! Oh, and getting out of it.



Our question this week comes from the blog post, Zen Habits: What patterns are you unconsciously repeating that are holding you back? Are they keeping you from living your dreams?

Until next week, Peace!

Connie and Sheila


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5 thoughts on “065 SELF PUBLISHING FOR VIRGINS / What’s Holding You Back?

  1. Karin "from the West Coast"

    Just listened during my mid-day coffee break & enjoyed the episode. I ordered the book through your link so I can read it & pass it on to a friend in Oregon who just self published their first book via Amazon, but was looking at a way to do it better next time.

    One issue in buying a book was resolved for me because it only comes in paper edition. I’m always tempted to get a Kindle edition “right now”, but then I can’t pass it on because electro versions aren’t share-able. I’d be willing to pay full paper cost of a Kindle version of a book if i could share/transfer ownership to someone else.

    I did want to pass on a comment about authors being a guest speaker vs teaching on your topic. In my part of the country, to teach at a college you usually need a Master’s Degree in your field. However, to teach at a community college in a vocational field (such as wielding, real estate, cosmetology, graphic arts or food services) one usually needs an AA or Bachlors degree and 6 years experience in the field (so you are recognized as a SME). In other words, vocational programs really value what you know & can do from real experience vs a bunch of degrees.

    Keep up the good work & keep those great episdodes coming!


  2. Connie & Sheila

    Karin: Thanks so much for your comment and for ordering Peggy’s book. Self Publishing for Virgins will help anyone who has written a book and wants to go to the next level, publishing. With all the advantages of self publishing, why wouldn’t you? This book teaches you how.

    We will ask Peggy to comment on the Kindle question.

    As far as teaching, I do know a man (long term real estate investor) that taught real estate classes at a technical college here in Nashville. Not sure if he had a degree or not. Interesting comment about teaching. We’ll see if we can clarify the requirements on that.

    Thanks so much for being a listener, a participant and more importantly, a friend. We appreciate you and we thank you for your kinds words.
    Connie & Sheila

  3. Peggy DeKay

    Hello Karin: What a great friend you are to buy my book to give to your writing friend. Believe it or not, I see that all the time in workshops and writers conferences.

    As for sharing Kindle books…alas, no you cannot. You can share Kindle books between Kindle devices (up to 6) that are registered to your email account. Great if you have more than one Kindle in the house, but no good for sharing with friends. Although there is some talk about sharing, it isn’t a priority right now for the powers that be. Until they figure out how to monetize lending, it most likely won’t happen.

    As for the SME. I first became familiar with the term way back in the 90’s when I did a lot of IT work. According to today’s definition an SME is “an individual who understands a business process or area well enough to answer questions from people in other groups who are trying to help.” It sort of sounds like what my mom used to say…”An expert is someone who knows more about a subject than you do!” She also used to say “Everybody’s stupid, just on different subjects.” She was funny that way.

    Thank you again Karin for buying my book. I hope that your friend enjoys it and uses it to get published! Thank you for listening to the interview!

  4. Connie & Sheila

    Thanks Shelia, isn’t Peggy DeKay awesome? She is full of information for new writers. I (Connie) am in the editing phase of my first book and Peggy is helping me with getting it ready for publishing. Our plans are to self-publish, hopefully will have book in hand by February 2012. Who would have ever thought I would write a book? Not me, but it has been an amazing adventure. I am looking forward to sharing it more and more each day. Thanks again for listening and even more for taking the time to leave a comment.
    Connie (& Sheila)

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